Safer sex isn’t one-size-fits-all. For LGBTQ+ people, it can look different depending on bodies, partners, and types of sex, but the goal is the same: reducing the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) while supporting comfort, confidence, and choice.
Understanding the options available can help you make informed decisions about what works for you.
What Does “Safer Sex” Mean?
Safer sex means taking steps to reduce the risk of STIs and, where relevant, unintended pregnancy.
This can include:
- Using barrier methods
- Taking preventative medication
- Getting regular STI testing
- Communicating openly with partners
There is no single “right” way, safer sex is about finding the combination of methods that fits your needs and circumstances.
Barrier Methods
Barrier methods help prevent the exchange of bodily fluids and reduce skin-to-skin contact.
External (Condoms)
- Can be used for penetrative sex (anal or vaginal)
- Help protect against most STIs
- Should be used with water- or silicone-based lube
Internal Condoms
- Worn inside the vagina or anus
- Offer protection similar to external condoms
- Can be inserted in advance
Dental Dams
- Thin sheets placed over the vulva or anus during oral sex
- Help reduce STI risk during oral–genital or oral–anal contact
Preventative Medication
PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis)
PrEP is a medication taken before sex to reduce the risk of acquiring HIV. When taken correctly, it is highly effective.
It may be suitable for people who:
- Have sex without condoms
- Have an HIV-positive partner
- Feel they may be at higher risk of HIV exposure
PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis)
PEP is a short course of medication taken after a potential exposure to HIV.
Key points:
- Must be started within 72 hours
- Taken for 28 days
- Available through sexual health services and emergency departments
Testing and Communication
Regular STI testing is an important part of safer sex, especially if you have new or multiple partners.
Open communication can include:
- Discussing STI status and testing history
- Talking about what protection you want to use
- Agreeing boundaries and preferences
Beyond the Basics
Safer sex can also include:
- Using gloves for manual sex (fingering or fisting)
- Cleaning sex toys between use or using condoms on them
- Avoiding sharing toys without protection
- Being aware of cuts, sores, or irritation that could increase risk
Key Takeaway
Queer safer sex is about having the information and tools to make choices that work for you.
- Use barrier methods like condoms, internal condoms, and dental dams. Order free condoms and lube here.
- Consider PrEP or PEP where appropriate
- Test regularly and communicate openly. Order a free STI test kit here.
- Choose methods that support both safety and comfort
Suffolk Sexual Health Service offers confidential, inclusive support and can help you explore the options available to you without judgement.
