Sex should always be based on mutual trust, respect, and consent. But what happens when someone removes a condom during sex without their partner’s knowledge or agreement? This is called stealthing, and it’s a serious violation of consent.

What Is Stealthing?

Stealthing is when a person removes a condom during sex without the other person knowing or agreeing to it. It can also involve deliberately damaging the condom before or during sex. This takes away a person’s choice about their own sexual health and protection, and it can put them at risk of unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including HIV.

Why Is Stealthing Harmful?

Stealthing isn’t just about physical risk—it’s also about violating trust and consent. When someone consents to sex with a condom, they are making a decision based on protection. Removing that condom without their knowledge takes away their right to make informed choices about their body.

It can also have serious emotional and psychological effects, including feelings of betrayal, violation, and anxiety about potential health consequences.

Is Stealthing Illegal?

Yes. In the UK, stealthing can be considered sexual assault because it changes the conditions of consent. Some survivors have taken legal action against those who have done this to them, and there have been increasing calls to ensure that stealthing is explicitly recognised under UK law.

What Should You Do If It Happens to You?

If you have experienced stealthing, it’s important to know that it’s not your fault and that you have options:

• Seek medical support – If you’re worried about STIs or pregnancy, you can access emergency contraception and sexual health services for testing and support. Many services, including Suffolk Sexual Health Service, offer free and confidential care. Order a free STI test kit here.
• Talk to someone you trust – Whether it’s a friend, a counsellor, or a support service, talking about what happened can help you process your feelings.
• Consider legal options – If you feel ready, you may wish to report it to the police or seek legal advice.

How Can We Prevent Stealthing?

The best way to prevent stealthing is through education and open conversations about consent. Consent is not just about saying “yes” or “no” to sex—it’s about clear, ongoing agreement to all aspects of sexual activity. If someone does not respect that, it’s a red flag.

It’s also important to challenge myths and harmful attitudes. No one is “entitled” to sex without a condom, and protection should never be compromised without full, enthusiastic agreement from both partners.

Where to Get Support

If you need advice or support, you can contact Suffolk Sexual Health Service for free and confidential STI testing, contraception, and support services.

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Your body, your choice. Always.